Work With What is In Front of You

Balanced StonesIt was Chris Corrigan that first got me into balancing stones. Probably seven years ago. Finding ways for the seemingly tiniest point of a stone to balance in the most unsuspecting of places. What was most fun about it was the gleam in Chris’ eye. He was having fun. He was creating art. He was offering art.

I’ve been doing a lot of balancing stones since then. The neighbor kids sometimes ask if I’ll do more in the front parking lot. My kids expect me to do it whether on a beach or on a hike. Like, Chris, I too, love the art.

This particular pictures is from a beach in Napier, on New Zealand’s east coast. It was a sunny day, earlier this week. My son and I had 45 minutes on this beach, waiting for an appointment. It’s a bit hard to tell the scale of this. Most of the stones were 5-8 inches tall. I mixed in a few shells and driftwood. That’s the Pacific in the background. Glorious and beautiful white crested turquoise waves.

I suppose if I wanted to extract principle, one that would be important to me is using what is in front of me. This was not a difficult collection of stones to find. They were everywhere. The log was placed there and, who knows, might be removed by the coming tide. That points to a second principle. Be willing to let it go. I must admit that I hoped it would remain for a long time, but I don’t really know that. Maybe it brought a momentary appreciation from a passer by — “well, look at that!”

The gleam, whether from the observer or the creator, makes the moment.

 

 

Koru & Kapiti

Kapiti Spiral

Given that I am in the last few days of a trip to New Zealand, I have the feeling that many of my next posts will have something to do with this land and this trip. Sense-making may take a while. My 18 year-old son and I have been on a Dad / Son trip, which has been utter privilege. Friend and colleague Glen Lauder has been our wonderful host.

This photo includes Kapiti Island as seen from a beach in Paekakariki, about an hour north of Wellington. The body of water is the Tasman Sea. I drew the spiral, the koru in Maori, because I like the shape. It symbolizes among other things, new life with attention to both the center and the unfolding. And for this day, some simple fun with my son Isaac.

Kapiti is a kind of preserve of NZ’s habitat, which we have seen many of during this trip. I appreciate the noticeable commitment and care in this island country to quality of life, including its preserves.

This Dad / Son journey punctuates a shift from my son’s youth to his adulthood. It’s not so clean, of course. But it is a deliberate trip that also has unfolding and center. For him, and for me.

 

 

Gems in Short

These are phrases I’ve heard this week at the PeerSpirit Circle Practicum.

  • On emergence and patience,
    “We are stirring a pot together. We just don’t completely know what the soup is.”
  • On shadow as healing,
    “Protect the truth-tellers and help pull the shadow off of them.”
  • On depth,
    “In calibrating to a circle, there is fear and longing.”
  • On changing form, yet holding to circle,
    “Just because you shift the rim, doesn’t mean it is gone.”
  • On elephants in the room,
    “It’s amazing how many elephants shrink in the process of ceremony.”

Some weeks are meant for good learning. Perhaps all are. It’s just that in some weeks, they are just a bit easier to see.

On Shadow

Shadow

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I am in some good learning this week at the PeerSpirit Circle Practicum on Whidbey Island. This particular piece is on shadow as it applies to hosting circles. What is shadow (a broadly used term now, a bit like collaboration or cooperation, it requires some definition)? What is conflict? What is sabotage? What is unspoken? How grief relates to this? How all of these relate to each other?

It is one of those learnings for which I have more questions than answers.

Is addressing shadow to resolve? To let breath? What discernment is needed to decide what to follow, what not to follow, and how not following is not the same as denying or ignoring.

I’m not surprised it is a rich question field here at the practicum. Grateful for good container holding by Christina Baldwin, Ann Linnea, and Alex Cukier so that these questions can surface.