Two Songs

The wizardry of my calendaring program reminds me that it is my friend’s birthday tomorrow. I sent her the performance, “God Danced” by the trio, Hot Soup. It’s a great alternative to celebrate and wish a happy birthday. Just under three minutes. It’s got some funky chicken and blue suede shoes — I know, good, right.

You know how You Tube loads related videos. Well it did, and loaded up a musician that I was not aware of. I was hooked in seconds to this beautiful song by Mary Gauthier, “Mercy Now.” She’s a folk singer and musician from Louisiana. I love her progression through the song — from father, to brother, to everyone, to the world — inviting a bit of mercy among us. It’s six and a half minutes and well worth it.

 

 

The World is Churning — Michael Meade

Michael Meade is an American writer and mythologist. He was very connected to men’s work and movement in the late 1900s.

In this three minute video he talks about two layers of story and two layers of churning. For story, it is the layer that is the universe, its vastness, its creation and its evolution. The second layer is the story of the human soul. It’s also vast and with much mystery, yet brings the focus down to the layer of each person.

The two layers of churning follow the two layers of story. There is churning in the earth — not just turning. Climate change. Extreme weather contrasts. Michael Meade talks about deep energies in the earth awakening. At the layer of individual, the churning is also occurring. How can it not in relation to the earth churning around us. It’s as though we as people don’t know what to do with the churning that is unavoidably coming through us — it’s cause for freaking out for many, and for cultural patterns of violence and terror.

Meade is asking an important question — what do we need as people to be in the deep churning of the human soul and psyche. He’s naming the story that many may not want to name.

Enjoy.

Holding Space — 8 Tips for Facilitators, Coaches, and Guides from Heather Plett

I love the story that Heather Plett shares in this article she published recently. Heather is among other things, a practitioner and teacher of The Circle Way. She is someone I’ve only met online, yet some of my best friends know her well and tell me that we should meet!

Her article is tender, as it always is when caring for those that we love. It’s also wise. These are eight bits of wisdom that would do any facilitator some good as a starting point, or as something to come back to when a gut check is needed.

I’ve listed the tips below. The full article is worth a full read. Heather’s Ann reminds me of my Audrey, who was a different kind of care-giver (midwife for my first child), but also a great space-holder.

  • Give people permission to trust their own intuition and wisdom.
  • Give people only as much information as they can handle.
  • Don’t take their power away.
  • Keep your own ego out of it.
  • Make them feel safe enough to fail.
  • Give guidance and help with humility and thoughtfulness.
  • Create a container for complex emotions, fear, trauma, etc.
  • Allow them to make different decisions and to have different experiences than you would.

I love Heather’s closing paragraph that names “holding space” is a life time practice in the many walks of life we all find ourselves in.

Oh, These Places

Gambier

This is another photo from Gambier Island, just north of Bowen Island and west of Vancouver, BC. Yes, it is where I’ve met the last few days with a few of the stewards of The Circle Way.

As five of us were departing via water taxi, several of us commented, with awe, on the places that we have been able to meet in. Beautiful, as you can see. Sometimes remote, as this particular location was. Nourishing places, the kind that change you, not just on the outside but on the inside too. I’m not talking luxury of mansions and people waiting on us. I’m talking more of quality of connection, and us taking care of each other.

Combine that with some good process and it becomes a forever-remembered place. “Ah, remember that time on Gambier,” will be the utterance with appreciation. For us, our process was mostly held in Circle. Some in Open Space to help us accomplish our work. Some in training, where peers helped us all move along together in a project management tool that reminded me of the phrase, “if you want to go farther, go together.” Some in decision making. Some in discernment through a few unknowns and niggly issues.

These are places and processes that I know many people never experience. My grandfather for example, would know places like Gambier as a possible summer holiday spot to take his grandkids. But not as a place to work. And not in the way that brings us all into deeper layers of friendship.

I’m in awe myself. And grateful for this place and these people that awaken me.