Own Your Container

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In the last month I’ve been able to use Open Space Technology as a key part of working with groups in multi-day gatherings. One of the things that I consistently see, and love, in Open Space is that people open up in a different way. They get what they want and feel a kind of “aha” — even surprised shock, that it worked. A bit like realizing that the simple turning of the key (or pushing the power button) of a car actually does turn it on. I’ve seen the “aha” in participants ranging from the really onboard types all the way to some heavily skeptical types — there’s nothing quite like seeing skepticism cracked open to satisfied accomplishment.

One of my key insights in the last month has been about, what I would call, “owning you container.” Open Space is a container. Just like World Cafe is. And The Circle Way. Yes, there are nuances between them. But they are containers for people to do a particular kind of good within them.

With Open Space, I’ve noticed a myth that feels off to me. It is that there is no structure. “You can do whatever you want.” This is one of those statements that is kind of true, except when it is not. Yes, there is freedom intended and amplified in the process of creating an agenda / market place. Yes, there is freedom in self-organizing where to host and what to host. Yes, there is freedom in the law of two feet — go where you can learn and contribute. But all of these principles of freedom are intended to create, or add to, a sense of responsibility — the group taking responsibility for its learning.

If you own the deeper purpose or responsibility, then self-organized working groups are not anything at all wishy washy. And the “owning the container” part for anyone hosting, is to set structure within which an enormous amount of freedom can flow. It’s just like an Ultimate Frisbee game. Though the game is very fluid, and depends much on honor, there are still rules that create the container that is Ultimate. It’s not the structured plays of an american football game. But it is a container for a particular kind of game to occur that emphasizes working with the moment. To invite people to play Ultimate you must own the boundaries and rules that are Ultimate — or you’ve got something else entirely.

It was one of my friends, Toke Moeller, that I best remember talking with about the “gift of the river bank.” The river bank prevents flooding, creating boundaries for a body of water to flow, never being the exact same river in any two moments. So it is with Open Space and other participative process — flow within a container that is different than scripted steps within a presumption of certainty, often imposed by a few on behalf of many. By being clear in yourself about what is happening in Open Space, oh my, people are deeply satisfied by the gift of that container.

 

Be Church

It was six years ago that I met Glen Brown. Glen was a participant at a local workshop in Salt Lake City that I and a friend were offering on Participative Leadership. Glen is a really good human — I would come to know that many times over the next six years. What made him a good human in that moment was his honest question. He was thinking about his role in his United Church of Christ congregation — “Would it be crazy to think that you could help us redesign our annual meeting (for 180 people) to be more participative?” Glen was on the edge of an “aha” in asking the question — I could see it on his face.

In a long story made short, Glen and I struck up a friendship and colleagueship that I have loved and that has carried through to today. I met people through Glen — his pastor, Erin Gilmore, who also became a good friend and colleague. The three of us had curry together often. We designed and co-lead the Rocky Mountain Conference (ROMOCO) annual meeting in 2011. And in that ROMOCO design, Glen said something that helped create a narrative. “We need to “be” church. Not just in worship, but in the whole meeting.”

Glen was speaking a longing that was and is widely held by people in his faith community. He was speaking an underlaying operating principle about connection, and about sharing stories and asking questions together. You see, previously, the annual meeting was more about a keynote speaker and a business meeting at which budgets would be approved, resolutions passed, and officers elected. Those are all good things. But Glen was a voice for what was in many — the desire to be more than a group of people administratively connected. He wanted real human to human curiosity as church.

This last weekend, I was able to work with another group of people, the Central Pacific Conference (CPC) of the United Church of Christ. They were at the point where ROMOCO was five years ago with their annual meeting. They wanted it to be more participative. The wanted not just an event, but a launch of a new way of being together. Being church.

I love the photo below, used for communion with the CPC. The postit notes are intentions set by participants in our participative process, that were then used in worship.

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Working with a great team over six months, we built a good foundation and then hosted a group of 120 in participative format for a weekend. Just like five years ago with ROMOCO, and with Glen in my mind, we encouraged the participants to think of the whole meeting as worship, not just communion at the end. Worship is partner conversations. Worship is small table conversations. Worship is quiet journaling. Worship is the business meeting. Worship is self-organized working groups. Worship is meals together.

I gush a bit to think of how well all of this landed in the whole of the group at this CPC annual meeting. The appreciation was very apparent. For our facilitation. For our leadership. And, I think most of all, for an awakened imagination of being church — now ready to take on so much more together. Yes, that’s pastors, clergy, lay leaders, old guard, new ministries — stirred and awakened to another layer of imagination of being church.

Varied, Like All Of Us

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Last night my spouse and I had dinner at a nearby Mexican restaurant. We shared a fajita. When I reached for a toothpick, I saw an invitation to a King County poetry contest under the theme, “Your Body of Water.” Fifty words or less. Selected entries will be used in a year-long initiative, Poetry on Buses.

I love stuff like that. It’s compelling. Like a rising full moon that you can’t not pay attention to.

I shared the brochure with my spouse, telling her, “you should enter this.” Then I couldn’t help myself. As we drove home, to Little Brook, I scribbled a few words myself that connect water’s flow to human variability.
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Varied, Like All Of Us

Just as my Little Brook
slows to a summer’s bare trickle,
and yet can quickly torrent
to massed tributary of cascading emerald rain,
so flows human life.
It isn’t flawed.
Just like Little Brook,
it is varied.
Like all of us.

 

Magical Wilderness

Kinde Nebeker is a good friend and colleague. We continue to develop a body of work together called, The Inner and Outer of Evolutionary Leadership. I love the focus on both the inner (presence and grounding) combined with the outer (convening and hosting). We offered a three-part series in the spring of this year. We are solidifying dates for a fall 2016 and spring 2017 series.

Kinde comes from a background of design and design education, transpersonal psychology and ecopsychology. She guides wilderness rites of passage trips and supports individuals in their psychological and spiritual development. I love this about Kinde. She’s opening so much to the practice of emergence and through her work, I find new layers in myself.

In her recent writing, The Magical Wilderness Between People Together, Kinde says,

“I have an immense curiosity about this territory, this sort of magical invisible wilderness that I’ve stumbled into now and again when I am with other people in a particular kind of way. I am curious because I feel most alive and fully human this invisible wild space together. I am curious because new and amazing things can be created in this space. And I am also curious to understand this phenomenon better because I sense it could be a critically important place for us all to know how to be in as we face unprecedented global challenges.”

Give it a full read on her site.